How to Blend-In, Yet Stand-Out!

By Mr. Self Development

A few weeks ago I wrote an article titled “65 Ways to Stand-Out from Everyone Else.” Shortly after I wrote that article I received an e-mail from a reader stating that this concept of “standing-out” is problematic, specifically at work and in the business world, she wanted to know, “…How do you blend-in?”

Truth be told, she asked a great question.  

Why do I say this?

Because if you stand-out too much, you will be ostracized, and you will likely never make significant progress in the business world.  

Fitting-in appropriately is not only important to success, it is absolutely essential – you must be the “right” fit for the position, group, customer, or level that you desire to achieve.

However, and with the same token, if you don’t stand-out, you will never be noticed, and you will never be appreciated, recognized, and rewarded for youruniqueness, your talent, and your authenticity. There’s a balance that must be struck.  This article is dedicated to those who are trying to find that balance.

The Goal

The goal is to be so pliable that you’re able to adapt to any environment without compromising the essence of who you are.  In other words, you should blend-in so much that you’re accepted, but you should stand-out so much that you’re authentic. You should blend-in so much that you’re not shunned, and yet you should stand-out so much that people appreciate your difference.

The key is to be comfortable in your skin, yet have reverence for the environment that you’re in. This is not about “selling out” and being “fake,” it’s about understanding protocol and the rules of engagement.

The Business World is Laced with Protocol

While you may feel comfortable coming to work in your pajamas, you will probably not blend-in sufficiently enough to justify that being a good idea. Yes, you have to be “you,” but it’s important that you are the highest most developed version of yourself in order to succeed in the business world.

Authenticity

This doesn’t mean that we should all be dressed alike and speak the same, like little automatons, because that wouldn’t be authentic at all. It does mean that we must fit the environment that we’re in…with the most authentic version of ourselves.

You Have to be True to You

Just because Steve Jobs presented at Macworld in jeans and a turtleneck, doesn’t mean that the next person should. What’s true for you, is not always true for me, and yet there are some things that are true for everyone. What works for Joe is not necessarily what will work for Sally. There is no perfect way to do anything, and yet, this has to be balanced with some level of orthodoxy. We can all agree that whoever presents at Macworld should be wearing some clothes, no matter how comfortable they are naked, or how well they think they can pull it off.  There’s a protocol in every environment that must be understood and followed if you are to be successful.

Work to understand the requisite protocol, and then be your authentic self within the boundaries of that protocol.

So how do you blend-in, and yet stand-out?

1. You can do it with your attire.  You can follow etiquette, and yet adorn yourself in a way that is true to you and your personality.

2. You can do it with your behavior.  You can do what the group is doing, but you can do it in your own unique way, a way that you’re comfortable conductingyourself and your business.

3. You can do it with your voice.  You can be loud, or quiet, in a way that’s true to you, and the list goes on and on, and yet the goal remains the same: you must balance authenticity with accuracy of behavior according to your present environment.

In short, when it comes to business, in order to succeed, you must always blend-in…but you must never fail to stand-out.

http://www.mrselfdevelopment.com/2015/04/how-to-blend-in-yet-stand-out/

MASTER YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH AND MASTER YOUR LIFE

MASTER YOUR EMOTIONAL HEALTH AND MASTER YOUR LIFE

Emotional mastery is the key to living a life that you direct. The capacity to have absolute direct power over what you feel in every single moment—no matter what happens around you—is one of the most important skill sets you can have.

There are three forces in the world that determine what you feel. These forces are called the Triad. Together, these three patterns create any—and every—emotional state.

Whatever you feel, you’re not feeling it because you have to feel it. You’re feeling it because you’ve chosen from the Triad. In order to master your emotions and consciously choose the emotions you want to live in, you need to understand these three forces and how to use them to your advantage.

#1: Physiology

Emotion is created by motion. Whatever you’re feeling right now is directly related to how you’re using your body. If you slump your shoulders and lean your head forward, you’ll move toward a state of depression. However, the next time you find yourself in a negative state, stand up, throw your shoulders back and take a few deep breaths. You’ll find that you’re able to put yourself in a resourceful state. From this state, you can make stronger decisions and enjoy a sense of certainty that will keep you calm in the face of uncertainty.

#2: Language

Language comes in many forms, one of which includes the questions you ask yourself, either aloud or inside your head. If you ask, “Why does this always have to happen to me?” you’ll create a much different set of emotions than if you asked, “How can I benefit from this?” or “Where’s the gift in this?” or “What’s humorous about this?”

The language patterns you run play a significant role in the meaning you give a situation—and the emotion that situation creates in you. When you feel negative emotions taking over, look at the language surrounding your situation. How can you shift it to create a more empowering state?

#3: Focus

Where focus goes, energy flows. And where energy flows, whatever you’re focusing on grows. In other words, your life is controlled by what you focus on. That’s why you need to focus on where you want to go, not on what you fear. When you next find yourself in a state of uncertainty, resist your fear. Shift your focus toward where you want to go and your actions will take you in that direction.

Understanding—and influencing—your Triad is the first step toward emotional mastery. When you can influence your emotions using the Triad, you can choose to spend more time in positive, resourceful emotional states. From these states, you’ll make the decisions that will help you reach your highest potential and enjoy your life in every moment.

http://training.tonyrobbins.com/master-your-emotional-health-and-master-your-life/

Saying Yes When We Mean No: How to Break the Habit

By Victoria Cox

“Half of the troubles of this life can be traced to saying yes too quickly and not saying no soon enough.” ~Josh Billings

Have you ever encountered a situation where you found yourself agreeing to do something that you had no interest in actually doing?

When we find ourselves saying yes when we mean no, we are essentially saying no to ourselves and giving our personal power away. The classic archetype of the People Pleaser.

So why do we do it?

I believe it is learned behavior. I have yet to see a toddler hold themselves back from the brink of a temper tantrum and tell themselves, “You know what, mum is really tired today. She doesn’t need another one of my meltdowns. The diaper aisle in Target is not the right place for this type of behavior.”

It simply doesn’t happen. Children tend to express their emotions as they feel them, which is why they are generally such emotional-baggage-free zones. They typically express those emotions freely and with complete abandon, regardless of who’s looking at them.

Throughout the course of our early life, when our mother, father, or parental figure approves of what we do, it feels good. Therefore, we learn to keep doing things that will meet their approval to keep feeling good.

The problem is that every time we continue on this pleasing path, we are ultimately taking ourselves off our own path. We are closing down from what we want, focusing on what others want from us, and effectively handing them the reins to our lives.

One analogy I like to make for this type of behavior is renting a car in a new city with a GPS device.

You are entirely reliant on that device getting you to where you need to be. All well and good, but what if the device isn’t given the correct instructions or doesn’t take into account the new one-way system recently implemented in the city?

When you relinquish control and hand your power over to someone or something outside yourself, you are cutting yourself off from you.

But what if you also had a map of the new city and worked out your correct location and intended destination?

You’d start to get a sense of where you are and a feel for the direction you need to be headed in.

The GPS system is a shorter route to get there and a very useful aid, but in handing over your power completely, you are at the whims of the GPS and at risk of driving the wrong way down a one-way street.

I learned from an early age that life would be simpler if I just did what I was told. In turn, people started to expect that nice behavior from me. But what about the situations where I wasn’t feeling like being nice? What if being nice felt the polar opposite of the emotion that I wanted to express?

By choosing people pleasing behavior, I was giving everyone else what they wanted and in turn, denying myself.

I was stuffing down my emotions and instead, learning to say what was expected of me. After a while, this behavior starts to feel normal and you no longer even question why you behave a certain way; it becomes ingrained, a habit.

So how do we break the habit?

The first step is simply awareness.

Notice when you start to engage in people pleasing behavior.

There is no need to beat yourself up when you notice this. You are essentially starting to retrain the neural pathways in your brain. It may take some time. Go easy on yourself and be forgiving. But don’t stop paying attention.

By becoming aware, we can no longer stay in denial about our behavior; we know exactly what we are doing.

The next step is to ask, “Why am I doing this?”

Once we are aware of our behavior, we can start to question it. One of my people pleasing habits is just to give the other person what they want so I don’t have to feel any emotional discomfort. This is called avoidance.

For example, a friend invites me to dinner and asks if we could go to a fondue restaurant she loves. I hate fondue. The idea of soaking pieces of bread into a vat of swirling melted cheese makes me feel slightly nauseous.

Yet, instead of just telling my friend this, I hear myself saying, “Sure, sounds great.” Fast-forward a few days and there I am, stuffing melted cheese into my mouth and plastering a grin over my face to try and conceal my disgust.

I asked myself, why am I doing this? The answer was clear. I would rather put myself through a few hours of discomfort and line my intestines with a cheese glaze rather than tell my friend I wasn’t into it.

As I looked back on this experience I realized that the only person suffering in that experience was me. I willingly put myself into a situation I didn’t want to be in rather than being honest.

After becoming aware of our behavior and figuring out why we’re doing it, we can then address the problem.

The last step is to set emotional boundaries.

Setting new boundaries with the people you love is never easy, and it takes time. The key is to take a deep breath and step back when you find yourself entering the people-pleasing zone.

Saying “I’m not sure yet, can I get back to you?” is a step in the right direction. This gives you time to think the issue through so you don’t feel pressured into making a decision.

Ask yourself what you want, not what the other person wants from you.

If you don’t want to do what is being asked of you, it’s okay. You can be loving and kind about it but remain firm.

Creating boundaries provides an emotional comfort zone for yourself. When we are clear on what we will and wont accept, people respect us for it.

At the end of the day, we all want to be loved and accepted by those closest to us. But it’s important to know that loving someone doesn’t mean doing everything in your power to please them. This is called being a doormat.

By shifting focus and starting to love yourself first, you learn to step into your authentic self and conduct your relationships from a place of equal footing.

We begin to reaffirm to ourselves that we have the right to live our lives on our own terms.

Stand tall in your own skin and be who you are meant to be, not what somebody else expects you to be.

No blackboard image via Shutterstock

http://tinybuddha.com/blog/saying-yes-when-we-mean-no-how-to-break-the-habit/

What Makes Successful People Succeed by Brian Tracy

How To Get Your Confidence Back

MARCH 11, 2015

It happens to everyone eventually – something deeply rattles your confidence. You lose a job, mess up at work, receive tough feedback, or are otherwise set back on your heels. If it’s bad enough, then your very vision of yourself gets cracked, and you can even begin to wonder what your strengths really are.

Given the importance of confidence, if we lose it, how then can we get it back?

In their online book, Catalyst, the founders of G5 Learning explain how confidence and competence are intertwined to create success.

However, without confidence, competence will only get you so far. Authors Smith and Marcum write: “Why do people with deep, distinct strengths, unfaltering motivation, and who dedicate themselves tirelessly to reaching their potential, fall short of their own expectations? In a word, confidence.”

According to research, women suffer from a lack of confidence more so than men. A 2011 study by the Institute of Leadership and Management surveyed British managers about how confident they feel in their jobs. Half of the female managers expressed a degree of doubt about their job performance while less than one third of male respondents expressed the same doubt. In another study, Brenda Major, a social psychologist at the University of California at Santa Barbara, asked men and women how they thought they were going to do on a variety of tasks. The results? She found that “men consistently overestimated their abilities and subsequent performance, and that the women routinely underestimated both.”

Even if women have more confidence doubts, there’s still plenty of insecurity to go around. As Smith and Marcum point out, the key to raise confidence is to rise above others’ (and your own) distorted images of yourself. As they say, it “isn’t controlled with an on-off switch. Instead it’s a constant stream of psychological strength that either sustains you, or is short-circuited by degrees of invincibility and doubt.”

So how do we boost our confidence when we need it most? Here are a few strategies:

1. Even when it’s hard, keep taking risks.

When we feel that we’ve failed, we often want to take ourselves out of the game, lick our wounds, and avoid risk. That’s the worst thing we can do.

Inaction keeps us mired in the space of loss. It’s only action which can create success and, in turn, confidence.

As Churchill famously said: “If you’re going through hell, keep going.” Or if you prefer Joni Mitchell: “Action is the antidote to despair.”

2. Give yourself some small wins.

There’s no doubt that success breeds confidence, but it doesn’t have to be a huge one to help you build your confidence back.

Put yourself in a position to do incremental activities that capitalize on your strengths. Repeated, small wins can slowly bring you back to appreciating your talents.

3. Get perspective with a dose of appreciation.

If a failure is particularly stinging, it can overtake our thoughts and quickly get blown out of proportion. Find a way to take a step back and put it in the larger picture. Did you lose a promotion? Consider how many successes you’ve had to get to the place you are today. One promotion lost in a career is not a dead-end. 

Seek out friends and colleagues who appreciate what you do. If you can share the failure in a safe environment, you can gain the viewpoint that others have of you. We are always our harshest critics.

4. Stop comparing yourself to others.

One of the reasons that failure hurts is that we are concerned about what others will think of us. Rationally we may know that it doesn’t matter, but you just have to look at Facebook behavior to see how comparative we all are.

If your failure results in someone else’s success, try not to make it a zero sum game. Your losing a promotion now doesn’t mean you won’t get one later. Come from a place of abundance – there are more opportunities if this one didn’t go your way.

5. Try to find the hidden gem of learning.

No one can be perfect all of the time, and we all fail. When we do, if we can dig deep and see the failure as a chance to learn, we can use it to our advantage. If we can reframe, we may even find a positive message lying hidden inside.

It really is all about the journey. Failure teaches us the most lasting lessons. We get stronger. We learn more about ourselves. We gain perspective. And we go on.

When you do overcome your failures, remember to not hide them. Showing vulnerability can actually make you more influential and inspiring to others. We are drawn to those who have failed and gone on to success. It’s what makes you human…and just like the rest of us.

http://kristihedges.com/2015/03/11/get-confidence-back/

5 Lessons to Learn from General Julius Ceasar

5 Lessons Every Entrepreneur Needs to Learn From Julius Caesar To Dominate

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If you’re really pumped up on success, you probably call the company you’re building (or planning to build)“Your Empire.” But do you really know what it takes to build an empire? Do you know how to dominate your world and climb to the top rank of entrepreneurship?

If there ever was a man who knew, it was Julius Caesar. The Julius Caesar: the man who built ancient Rome into the seat of the great Roman Empire practically single-handedly. And although times have changed quite a bit since Julius Caesar was around, there are still five important lessons on building your brand to imperial status and achieving true success that every modern entrepreneur should learn from the man who built Rome.

1. Don’t simply claim your value. Prove it.

When Caesar was a young man (and still a nobody), he was captured by pirates. Twice. When his second captors said they would ask 25 talents as ransom, Caesar laughed in their face. That was the price his first captors had asked and it was time to up the ante. As crazy as it sounds, Caesar convinced the pirates to ask for 50 talents for his release! Which today would be equivalent to the price of 3,550 pounds of silver. Not a small sum by any means.

But Caesar proved he was worth his salt. After mobilizing all his connections to contribute money for his ransom, Caesar built a small fleet and attacked the pirates, taking back every single penny his friends had paid to the pirates. Not only that, he also killed the pirates, and did the whole of Rome a favor by eliminated a real danger from the seas. If you think about it, that’s a steal for just 50 (refunded) talents!

Hopefully, you won’t have to kill any pirates to prove your entrepreneurial worth. But the question of value comes up just as often today as it did in the ancient world. A lot of people make the mistake of thinking that their value depends on how much clients are willing to pay them for their products or services.

But the truth is that you’re responsible for showing the world where your real value stands. And the trick to that? Is having the confidence to over-deliver on your promises. Don’t just claim you’re worth 50 talents (or 50 million dollars). And don’t just throw a price on your website hoping, praying, and wishing, people will take the bait and believe you. Go out there and kill it.

Show everybody that those 50 talents they’re paying for you? They’re really a steal for someone of your talent and skills.

2. Don’t wait for permission. Get it done.

When Caesar was still studying law—and keeping out of politics—Mithridates of Pontus attacked the Roman frontier in Asia Minor. This frontier was quite a way from Rome, but young Julius Caesar understood the impending threat.

Instead of turning a blind eye and pretending that it wasn’t his problem, he raised a private army and marched to the defense of the attacked towns. By the time the official Roman army got to the scene, the enemy had practically been defeated and Caesar was hailed as a war hero in Rome.

Now, you may not have to fight any real wars, but if you’re ambitious entrepreneur with a dream to conquer the world, you will inevitably come up against some tough situations. And the same two choices that faced Caesar still face you: You can either shrug it off and say it’s not your job, or you can stop waiting for permission and go do it now.

Success doesn’t come from permission. Success comes when you take action and show the world what you’re capable of.

 

3. Manage your time (and everybody else’s)

Back in Caesar’s time, the yearly calendar was all out of whack. With only 355 days in the year, the months kept falling out of pace with the seasons and no one knew what festival they were supposed to be celebrating. (Imagine having New Year’s fall on Halloween. Total chaos.)

Everybody in Rome complained about the calendar, but no one really did anything to fix it. No one but Caesar, that is. Seeing that the Egyptians had a solar calendar that worked much better than the Roman lunar calendar, Caesar changed the entire time system in Rome, creating the Julian calendar of 365 days (plus a leap day every fourth February) that we still use all over the world today. Radical, no?

Time is the most precious thing we have in life, and what we do with our time defines who we ultimately become in life. Don’t let time slip out of your hands without taking full advantage of it. You may not be able to manage everybody’s schedules (and you probably don’t want to, anyway), but you can manage your time for maximum efficiency. Instead of complaining about how busy you are, develop a time management system that works for you.

Chunk out your day, eliminate distractions, stay on track with your to-do list and you’re good to conquer the world.

4. No way across? Build a bridge. And make it sturdy.

While conquering Gaul (modern-day France), Caesar had to deal with some Germanic tribes across the river Rhine that were harassing his army. The problem? Caesar didn’t have boats to cross the river. The solution? Build a bridge. And not just any ol’, made-to-last-two-days bridge. Caesar built two bridges (in two different years of the war) that not only proved strategically successful, but that are still considered masterpieces of military engineering today.

You may not have to cross the Rhine any day soon, but if you’re doing innovative work, sooner or later you’ll have to push the envelope to places it has never been before. And in those moments you have to remember that exceptional success requires exceptional steps.

No solution in sight? Take it as your opportunity to shine and build something new. Existing solution doesn’t match up to your standards? Build something better. Forge a new path. And not just for yourself, but for everyone who’ll come after you, too.

 

5. Blog about your experiences and what you’ve learned.

Would you believe me if I told you that Caesar used to blog? Not on the internet of course. But Caesar used to keep a traditional “log” of all his expeditions, written with a feather pen on papyrus. (Weren’t those the days!) While fighting the Gallic and the Civil Wars, Caesar wrote about his army, his strategy, his tactics, his decisions, his successes and setbacks, and generally everything he faced every day.

And he didn’t just write in a “dear diary” format. He wrote some of the best prose any Roman author ever did and published his work in Rome so people could follow his expeditions and stay informed on his progress.

And if Caesar could write while fighting wars on the frontiers, then you have no reason not to be blogging about your entrepreneurial trials and successes from the comfort of your couch. Regular contact and communication with a supportive audience is important for success, especially in today’s ultra-connected online world. You can’t just stay hidden from the world behind your screen until you find success. You’ll never find it.

You have to get out there and put your story out into the world now, as it happens. Because if you don’t share, no one will care. So don’t sit around debating whether a blog is a good idea, get out there and start writing about your adventures and see how true success will come find you along the way.

It doesn’t matter whether you’re fighting pirates or your inner demons, whether you’re managing the world’s calendar or managing your daily schedule, or whether you’re blogging from the campfire or from the coffee shop around the corner.

The essential steps for finding true success remain the same, even if their form has changed. So take a cue (or five) from Caesar’s playbook and go out there to conquer the world today!

http://addicted2success.com/motivation/5-lessons-every-entrepreneur-needs-to-learn-from-julius-caesar-to-dominate/

Conquer Change Part 2

Last week I shared with you why we as humans often struggle with change due to our brain’s threat-reward system. To get you prepped and ready to start conquering change this 2015, let me first share a quote from my mentor Jim Rohn:

“Your life doesn’t get better by chance. Your life only gets better by change.”

Now, let me give you a half-dozen tips on taking control of your brain and regain the master position vs the subservient position to it.

First it’s important to remind you that much of what we do on a daily basis happens without thinking—driving a car, brushing our teeth, opening a refrigerator, browsing the supermarket aisle, even running a meeting. You don’t have to decide consciously which leg to put into your pants first. These simple behaviors have been shaped, repeated behavior now trained and formed as a habit—an unconscious habit.

It’s kind of like a well worn path across a field. If you drive your car over the same path through a field every day, that track will get deeper, more cleared and easier to drive down over time. The rest of the field might get overgrown on either side but the tracks will stay clear. The neural pathways in our brain work the same way. The more we drive down one particular path the easier it becomes.

Changing a habit or embedding a new behavior takes effort and focused attention.
This can feel physiologically uncomfortable and be quite literally painful to over-ride your well worn habits.

So here are six suggestions to hack your brain’s natural tendency to do nothing and stay stuck in the status quo, where it is MUCH more comfy:

1. First, I want you to think BIG.
Think about the person you want to become, the life you want to lead and the contributions you want to make to the world and those in your world.

But then I want you to act small.
Big achievements, grand missions, massive change and transformation come from iterative, small, seemingly insignificant improvements that are compounded over time. You might have heard about that right—it’s called The Compound Effect. If you haven’t, then go towww.TheCompoundEffect.com and buy the book!

Let me just illustrate how simple and profound this can be.
How much do you want to improve in a certain area or skill?
50%? How about 100%? Hey, how about 500%?
No, I’ll tell you what, let’s go for 1,000%.

What?? 1,000% you say?
Yes, how hard do you think it would be for you to improve 1,000% in any area of your life? To be 1,000% better parent or 1,000% better husband or wife or 1,000% better leader or 1,000% smarter investor, business builder or wealth creator. Imagine how dramatically different your life and lifestyle would be if you were 1,000% better than you are now. It would be 1,000% better! Just think of your life 1,000% better than it is now.

Now, you ask, what do you have to do to achieve 1,000% better?
I’m glad you asked. You are probably think it must mean you have to study, practice and sacrifice immensely and make a radical commitment.

Nope.
Here is all it takes, you ready?
Seriously, you ready?
You really ready to improve 1,000%?

Then you just have to improve 1/10th of 1% each work day. That’s only 1/1000th.
You can do that in reading 10 pages of a book dedicated to the improvement in that skill area and applying what you learn. Or spend 30 minutes listening to an audio dedicated to that skill area. That’s it, that’s all it takes.

Do that 1/1000th improvement every work day and that will result in 1/2 1%improvement each work week. That’s still only 2% improvement per month or 26% improvement each year. That growth percentage means you will double your improvement every 2.7 years, thus over 10 years you will have improved 1,000%

Voila! You are now 1,000% better than you were with just small, seemingly insignificant, day to day improvements COMPOUNDED over time.
Yes. It is. That. Simple.
BUT will you do it? THAT is the question.

2. To narrow you down even further I want to strongly suggest that you focus on changing or improving only one habit at a time.

Breaking previous habit patterns will be harder than you think.
I equate it to jumping into a river that is rushing in one direction. If you jump in you can go in the direction of the rushing river with no effort at all, it will carry you the entire way. But if you turn a 180 and start swimming UP the river you will have to fight with all your might, exhausting yourself and still maybe only be making inches of progress, despite all the effort.

Do not underestimate the power and might of your existing neurological habit patterns.
Breaking them can be as difficult as overcoming substance abuse.
The same psychological and emotional neurosystem has to be broken and replaced.
I’ll show you how narrow you have to focus.

BJ Fogg of Stanford University proved that if you want to teach 60 year olds to use an SMS program to help them quit smoking, it won’t work. Those are two new behaviors.  So pick one behavioral modification and habit change at a time. At least only one habit per month so that you’ll be able to focus all your energy on creating that one habit. You can choose any habit . If you are picking choose whatever habit change or improvement you think will have the biggest impact on your life.

3. Now go public.
People are more accountable to other people’s judgment, opinion and view than they are to their own. Use this human weakness as a brain hack. Tell as many people as possible about the new habit you are trying to form. Post it publicly in an online form—Facebook, blog or whatever public forum you want to use. Our pride, ego and desire to avoid public humiliation will be a great parole officer for you.

4. Associate with others who, too, are making that change.
Our brains usually lead us toward the opposite. We seek out people like us, in our current weak state, to avoid change. People who are too heavy, eat poorly, drink too much, watch too much television or play video games and follow other people playing sports tend to find each other and hang out with each other. We tend to find friends and form groups with people who reinforce our beliefs—whether those beliefs are correct or not. When many people agree, it’s easier to overlook or discount undeniable logic.

5. Then track your progress.
You can improve what you don’t measure.
Measure progress every day.

6. Report it.
Make it visible to you and to your public forum. Stories lie, numbers don’t. Report your numbers—to yourself and to the world.

Yes, post your weight scale numbers.
Yes, report your sales figures.
Yes, report your savings account balance.
Whatever the behavior, habit or outcome you are trying to improve: make it public, track it and report it.

So here is your plan for the rest of this month:

1. Pick one habit or behavior to change.

2. Study and improve on it 1/1000th every day—read or listen to something for 30 minutes.

3. Disclose your goal publicly.

4. Find a buddy or a group who are also focused on improving that same habit or behavior.

5. Track it,

6. and finally, report your progress publicly.

Do that once a month and WOW, I think you’d be shocked and amazed at the person you could become, the results you could create and the life you could lead.

http://darrenhardy.success.com/2015/03/conquer-change-2/#article