15 Happiness Quotes to Inspire You to Live Your Best Life

Posted on July 22, 2014 by Jessica Lauren DeBry | 

Life is what you make of it – so why not make yours happy? In the face of challenge, defeat, disappointment, discouragement, tragedy, and failure, it can sometimes be difficult to focus on the positive. But if you understand that your emotions start from within, you have the power to create a vibrant, fulfilling and happy existence – the life that you’ve always dreamed of.
If you’re ready for inspiration and motivation to create a life of happiness, read on!
15 Happiness Quotes to Inspire You to Live Your Best Life
1) “Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design for the present.” -Jim Rohn
2) “Whatever you decide to do, make sure it makes you happy.” -Paulo Coelho 
3) “If you want happiness for an hour – take a nap.
If you want happiness for a day – go fishing.
If you want happiness for a year – inherit a fortune.
If you want happiness for a lifetime – help someone else.” -Chinese Proverb 
4) “Happiness depends more on the inward disposition of mind than on outward circumstances.” -Benjamin Franklin
5) “When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened for us.” -Helen Keller
6) “Happiness depends upon ourselves.” -Aristotle
7) “You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” -Joel Osteen
8) “It is not how much we have, but how much we enjoy, that makes us happy.” -Charles Spurgeon
9) “Happiness is a habit – cultivate it.” -Elbert Hubbard
10) “Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are.” -Marianne Williamson
11) “If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or objects.” -Albert Einstein
12) “In order to carry a positive action we must first develop a positive vision.” -Dalai Lama
13) “Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.” -Brian Tracey 
14) “Be happy with what you have and are, be generous with both, and you won’t have to hunt for happiness.” -William E. Gladstone
15) “Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful.” -Herman Cain.

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10 Ways to Immediately Improve Your Life

Posted on October 8, 2014 by Leslie Romero Ralph |

 

“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs; ask yourself what makes you come alive.  And then go and do that.  Because what the world needs is people that have come alive.” -Harold Thurman  
If you are anything like me, you have probably had days (if not weeks) when you have felt a little stalled.
Perhaps you have felt stuck in a rut.  Time might have passed by while you were on autopilot.  You may have even questioned when life will really begin.
In contrast to this feeling, an enlivened life is one that we are excited about living.  We feel energized and awake for even the most ordinary moments.  When we are excited about our lives, we have something to look forward to and find rich meaning in our experiences.
When we think about what it would take to get excited about life, we sometimes think “but I’m just me,” as if telling ourselves that we aren’t good enough or don’t have the skills or resources to feel alive.  In reality, being “just me” is all we ever need to be.
Making any change, even a change for the better, can be a bit daunting.  Change can also be uncertain or risky.  It can feel awkward and unnatural at first, though it is completely normal for it to take a month of daily practice before a new behavior becomes habit.
When the results aren’t immediate we may question whether our efforts are working, and it can be tempting to slide back into old ways.
Rest assured that you don’t need to turn your life upside down to liven things up.  The truth is, coming alive doesn’t require impressive accomplishments or colossal life changes.  Getting excited about your life doesn’t require thrilling adventure, fame, or wealth, either.
We can all get excited by our lives by making a few small adjustments to our attitudes and our habits.  These small changes often come with an added bonus: positive change begets further positive change.
Below are 10 ways to enliven your life:  
Counteract negativity with positivity. 
Negativity is pretty stealthy.  It may creep in and soon become automatic and pervasive.  Slowly but surely, it dampens our spirits and robs us of our excitement for living.
Counteract negativity from others and yourself by responding with positivity, warmth, and optimism.  Instead of gossiping, channel envy into positive change.  Ban 2-3 negative labels or phrases from your vocabulary for 1 month.
Look for the lesson that difficult situations may be trying to teach you.  Think of them as presenting you with the opportunity to practice patience and perseverance, and remind yourself of what is going well outside of the situation.
Practice kindness. 
Practice acts of kindness every day.  Do something kind for yourself.  Write yourself motivating messages.
Try volunteering or donating to a charity.  Step in and help someone in need.  Even small gestures like holding open a door can carry forward into the rest of your day.
Dedicate time to learning and meaning. 
Every week, work toward learning something new and cultivating your talents.  Try reading a chapter a day, learning a word a day, practicing your math skills, or choosing a topic that you would simply like to learn more about.  Whatever you choose, approach it whole-heartedly.
Investing time in something you care about is really an investment in yourself.  Meaningful activities bring passion and richness to our lives and connect us to similar others.  Learning and meaningful activities are also the antidote to burn-out.
Make and relive memories. 
Time passes, no matter what.  When we are living a more enlivened life, we are more keenly aware of the impermanence of life and keep an eye toward the memories we are creating.
About once a week, do something nostalgic.  Nostalgia is that bittersweet, sentimental feeling that leaves us appreciating meaning and connection in our lives.  Try to create a time capsule, and mark a date on your calendar to reveal the contents.
Take 1-3 pictures a day of something you find inspiring, motivating, funny, or notable.  Fill a photo album with these, and review it at the end of the month.  Start a new tradition with friends and family.
Celebrate. 
So much in life is worth celebrating, yet we often don’t make time for this in our hectic schedules.  When we do choose to celebrate, we can get bogged down under the pressure of expectations.  Make your celebrations fun, meaningful, and frequent.
Celebrate anniversaries, even the small ones.  Focus on the meaning to you, and let go of the nonessential.  Celebrate the silly holidays like Skyscraper Day or Bingo Month.  Make it as big or little a celebration as you like.
Explore. 
How often are we living right next door to something amazing only to admit that we have never really paid attention? Be a tourist in your own home town.  Allow yourself to be excited about the things in your city that are easily taken for granted in daily life.
Do it sooner rather than later. 
It can be tempting to “do it later,” but all too easily we find that later never comes.  When we put off working toward important goals, we become more reactive than proactive.  We can feel overwhelmed as deadlines approach and stress builds, and we can feel defeated if we fail to make the progress we are hoping for.
To reawaken those personal goals that you have been putting off or afraid to start, choose one and commit to working toward it in some small way each day.  Break down large tasks.  Identify the fears that may be holding you back.
Remind yourself why this is important and consider how things might be different when you have reached this goal.  Sometimes simply taking an initial step can increase our commitment to the goal.
Brighten up. 
Not only do we often dress how we feel, but we can also feel how we dress.  About once a week, wear one thing that is a little brighter or more striking than you might usually wear.  The idea isn’t to be a slave to fashion or to focus on appearance, but rather to try on something a little different and notice how it feels.
Face your fears. 
Our fears hold us back, close us off, and make our worlds smaller.  Break out of this confined space by doing something every day that helps you conquer a fear.  You don’t need to overcome the fear all at once.  In fact, taking small steps every day is much more sustainable.  Work through the thoughts and the actions that may keep this fear locked in place.
Make time. 
As addicting as it may be, being busy is not the same as feeling alive.  Quite often, living a more enlivened life simply requires a little more time for living during the day.  Reduce your daily screen and media time by 30 minutes.
Choose 2-3 times per day for laughing, inspiration, and reflection.  Schedule time to work through the items on this list.  Commit to this time by marking it in your planner or setting an alarm.
 Now it’s your turn.  What do you do to enliven your life?

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Develop Stronger Willpower in Just Four Weeks

By Lou Hattersley 

 

Willpower is one of the greatest human strengths. If only we had more of that mysterious thing called willpower notes The American Psychological Association. “With more self-control we would all eat right, exercise regularly, avoid drugs and alcohol, save for retirement, stop procrastinating, and achieve all sorts of noble goals.”
People with strong willpower can tenaciously stick at tasks, ignore distractions and achieve their big goals. There's little wonder that willpower is a highly prized personality trait.
Researchers at Bond University in Australia recently proved that willpower can be strengthened with practice. This may sound like a Charles Atlas advert: but you can develop stronger willpower in just four weeks. Willpower can be applied to just about any aspect of your life, helping you get whatever you want.
Successful Ghostwriter, Jeff Haden from Inc.com lists five things that people with willpower seem to do:

• Eliminate as many choices as possible.
• Make choices tonight that set up tomorrow.
• Do the hardest thing you need to do first.
• Refuel frequently.
• Create reminders of long-term goals.

You can't just become a strong willed person overnight, so here's Lifehacker UK’s four-week plan to successfully building up willpower.

Week 1: Get rid of all your choices

The first thing you need to do is cut down on all the choices you get to make. The more chance you have to choose between positive and negative acts; the more likely you are to get impulsive, and make a bad choice.
Every true ex-smoker will talk about the importance of throwing out all cigarettes and paraphernalia. If you want to check email less then turn off your notifications or switch off your email and check it once an hour. If you want less caffeine and more water then keep a large water bottle on your desk (this prevents you from heading to the kitchen where you'll choose between tea and water).
Make a list of the small things you want to do more of and learn to keep them at hand; conversely learnt to push the things you don’t want as far away from you as possible. Make the good things easier to get to; and the bad things harder to get to. Spend your first week learning to cut down on your choices.

Week 2: Plan for tomorrow and attack the hard stuff first

Once you have dealt with the day-to-day choices, it is time to introduce some forward-thinking. There are two aspects to this next step:

1. Make decisions today that set you up for tomorrow
2. Attack the hard stuff early in the day.

Start by planning tomorrow morning in advance. Decide what you are going to wear (and lay it out), pick your breakfast and decide what you will have for lunch (if it's a packed lunch then make it the day before).
You will tempted to think of these as small, dumb things that you do with ease every day. They are, but that is why you are not going to waste any energy on them in the morning. Make sure that you don't have to make a single decision first thing in the morning – save your decision making energy for something important.
This brings us to the second bit. On your to-do list write down the first thing you are going to do at work tomorrow. But don't write any old thing down. Write down the hardest, least pleasant thing on your to-do list.
Putting hard tasks at the top of your daily to-do list in an old Lifehacker trick, because you do it when you are full of energy and the day gets easier as you go on. And because you have already sorted out all the small decisions of the morning you have all your energy directed at this one, tough task. Nail it!
So you should know these four things before you put your head to sleep:

• What you are going to wear.
• What you are going to eat.
• Where you are going to go.
• What is the first thing you are going to do when you get there.

Week 3: Keep your glucose levels up

Research has shown for a number of years that glucose levels are linked to willpower. A study at Texas University found that “self-control relies on glucose as a limited energy source.” And that every act of self-control caused glucose to drop below optimal levels, impairing any further attempt at self-control.
So it is a case of healthy body; healthy mind (or at least well-controlled mind). There is no shortage of tips for keeping glucose levels high. Here are some of our favourites:

• Eat protein for breakfast: eggs, fish and porridge or oats are a good start to the day.
• Cut down on wheat and carbs and try to include protein with every meal.
• Eat small, frequent meals.
• Eat more natural unrefined food: past, brown rice, rye and whole wheat bread.
• Drink healthy energy drinks.

Another tip is to gargle energy drinks. The British Psychological Society suggests gargling energy drinks saying “it may not even be necessary to consume sugar to boost your self-control levels - simply swirling a glucose drink around your mouth also does the trick.”

Week 4: Create totemic objects for your long term goals

So far you will have spent a lot of time physically and mentally strengthening your willpower, but that is only useful if you focus it on what’s important in your life.
In the final week you need to create physical totemic objects that remind you about long term goals. These can be anything you want, but it is important to make them physical real-world items.
Despite all your willpower strength training you will still be mentally fatigued from time to time, and you will make poor decisions. The physical objects remind you about what is important, Jeff Haden says:
A friend has a copy of his bank note taped to his computer monitor as a constant reminder of an obligation he must meet. Another keeps a photo of himself when he weighed 50 pounds more on his refrigerator as a constant reminder of the person he never wants to be again. Another fills his desk with family photos, both because he loves looking at them and to remind himself of the people he is ultimately working for.
Step back from the daily grind and think about what you want from life. What are your big overarching goals? Not just for the next week, or month but for life in general. The totems will help you stay focused.   http://www.lifehacker.co.uk/2014/07/16/develop-stronger-willpower-just-four-weeks 

5 Common Mistakes That Kill Your Motivation

Posted on August 24, 2014 by Stephen Guise | 

Motivation is the driving force behind our actions. More motivation to do the right things is therefore one of the most common desires people have. But having motivation sometimes means not doing the things that kill it.
Do you make any of these five mistakes that kill your motivation to do what matters?
Each reason includes a powerful technique to help you overcome it and stay motivated.

1. You Wait For It

Motivation is based on your emotions and environment. The best way to increase your motivation, then, is to change your emotions or environment. But how do you do that?
Take action. It can change your emotions and environment at the same time.
Many people believe they need motivation to take action, but it more commonly follows action. Think about your motivation levels prior to and during a workout. Once you begin, do you notice an increase in motivation to finish? Of course, because nothing is more motivating than taking action, which triggers an emotional shift and changes your environment in one fell swoop.
How To Overcome Waiting For It
The way to take action before you’re motivated is to aim for the first small step. This works because it doesn’t require much motivation, and yet it triggers additional motivation. To work out, begin by getting your gym clothes on. To write, open your word processor (and write one sentence).
If you always wait for motivation to come first, you’ll be waiting half your life. And waiting for motivation is often demotivating! But if you get the process started, your emotional state and motivation will align with what your body is already doing.

2. You Don’t Believe In Yourself

Motivation is very sensitive to your beliefs. If you want to get in great shape, but don’t fully believe that your gym efforts will get you there, then you won’t be motivated to go to the gym. Psychologists call this self-efficacy, which is your belief in your ability to influence an outcome.
How To Overcome Self Doubt
If you don’t believe that taking action will change your life in a meaningful way, do some research. Read stories of others who have done it and focus on the cause and effect of their actions. It can be difficult to believe you can do something you’ve never done, and that’s what hurts motivation. But if you do your research and take action (with small steps), your beliefs will change, and your motivation to continue will increase.

3. You Let Short-Term Feelings Get In The Way

The word “motivation” has a short-term and long-term meaning. I’m 100% motivated to be fit in general and that never changes. But I’m not always motivated to exercise in this very moment.
In other words, you can want something in general, but not want it in any given moment due to your feelings and circumstances. Because the things we want tend to require hard work and effort, it’s easy to want them, but not want to put the required work in to get them.
How To Overcome Negative Short-Term Feelings 
Accept that you don’t need to feel motivated to work in this moment. It does not have to stop you. It only stops people when they confuse how they feel as being the same as their long-term desires. Again, small steps combat these short-term feelings well because they activate your longer-term, intrinsic motivation.

4. You Lose Track Of Why

For any goal, it’s imperative to remember why you’re pursuing it in the first place. What are the benefits? If you forget about the benefits, your goal is going to seem like an undesirable mountain of work! And there is nothing less motivating than a lot of work without a meaningful reward.
How To Remember Why
I recommend using a vision board to keep you mindful of why you’re putting forth all this effort. Vision boards are visual representations of your goals. They’re so effective because our minds think of concepts in a visual way.

5. You Try Too Much At Once

I’m a firm believer in aiming for small goals that can be built higher. Most people aim high immediately because the allure of the big reward gives them a motivating surge at first. This backfires, however, when they enter the inevitable “grind” phase of goal pursuit. This is when the reward seems distant, yet the work is demanding. How unmotivating!
How To Overcome Unrealistic Goals 
Start small to keep your goal unintimidating; even when the reward seems distant, your workload will be bearable and you’ll be able to push through to bigger and better things. When you aim for the sure win, you’re much less likely to get discouraged and lose your motivation.
If you want to create healthy new habits and traditional techniques haven’t worked, take a look at the best-selling Mini Habits book. The mini habits strategy has all of the advice in this article built into it. It changed my life in areas of fitness, health, reading, and writing. And depending on when you read this, Mini Habits might be on a big sale right now!

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Get Off That Lazy Couch: 8 Ways to Get Out of a Slump

By Martijn Nanne on September 15, 2014 in Happiness, How To, Lifehacks

Recently I was in a bit of a slump. Things just weren’t going my way.
Nowadays I am absolutely great again. I feel wonderful and life is on the up and up again.
However sooner or later I will probably get into a slump again.

It’s inevitable.
How did I get out of it..? #1 First of all: stop stressing about everything that isn’t going well.
You will be fine. You are fine right now. You are just having a little down period in your life.
Life always comes in waves. There will be a positive wave after a negative wave. But this will only happen if you don’t quit.
Accept that things just aren’t going your way at the moment. I know it’s hard. Overthinking is also one of my weaknesses. But somehow you will have to get some peace in the situation you are in right now.
Things that helped me with this:
- Meditation
- Yoga
- Walking
My favorite: meditation.
#2 Always take consistent action.
Often times, it’s just a factor of not having enough practice. Taking action is the only way to progress in your journey to success. I know it requires a lot of self-discipline but you should really do it. Successful people take action whether they feel like it or not.
Not taking action equals losing momentum. Whenever you lose momentum, it will become harder and harder to get out of a slump. It will also become harder and harder to start up again.
Sometimes I don’t work out for a week. I’m always amazed about my motivation level to work out after a week of inactivity. I can barely get myself to the gym. It’s because I have lost momentum. As long as you have momentum going for you, it will make things easier and easier over time.
On the other hand, the longer you do nothing, the harder it will become to start something.
Maybe you just have to build some momentum again to get the ball rolling?
#3 Reflect on your behavior
Often, people are doing the same thing over and over again without getting any further. So if this is your case, reflect. What is going well, what isn’t?
If you are not getting the results you want, you might be just doing the wrong things. Think outside the box, try something new. Remember, if you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.
Don’t take this as an excuse to quit something after trying for only 3 days.
#4 Focus on the process
Focus on your actions, the results will follow. It’s important to have a long term vision and direction of where to go. But focus mainly on the next action you have to take towards your dream.
Life is a grind, and if you hate the grind, you basically hate your life. Learn to love the grind.
Be proud of the actions you take. Do this instead of beating yourself up for not achieving the results that you want.
The way to success is like a bumpy road. There will be everything you want in life at the end of the road. You will only have to keep moving forward. You can only focus on the step you are taking right now. So where is your focus? Do you focus too much on the place where you want to be? Or is your focus on the step you are taking right now?
I can tell you, the more you focus on the step you are taking right now, the faster you will walk your road.
#5 Keep a long term vision
Why did you start all this in the first place? Why did you begin your journey?
Yes that’s it, because you want to peruse your dreams!
Picture your success in your mind. If the picture is right, you should have a strong desire towards this picture.
Let it motivate you.
#6 Find inspiration
Read. Watch videos. Talk about your dreams with other people.
These are my favorite ways to get inspiration.
Look at the people you want to be like. Read autobiographies. Watch their videos. If you have the option, talk with them. It’s all about sparking that flame within you.
#7 Don’t take life too seriously, have a laugh.
This actually helped me a lot.
I learned this on my last vacation.
In my vacation, I had no worries. I wasn’t in my “serious mode”. I was just focusing on amusing myself 24/7. After my holiday I felt distressed and able to refocus on my goals.
In day to day life, switch on the “self-amusement mode” sometimes. Amuse yourself. Don’t be the “serious only guy”. Try to crack some jokes with the people you interact with during the day. Hang out with your friends and loosen up (not with alcohol or drugs of course).
Please, have some fun in life.
My tip: try to focus on amusing yourself whenever you are not working or any other serious activity.
#8 Fill your life with positivity.
Negativity is toxic. As soon as you observe a negative thought, change it with a positive one. Make this a habit.
You become what you think. If you have too many negative thoughts, your life is more likely to get into a negative spiral. On the other hand, if you focus on the positive, your life is more likely to go into an upwards spiral.
Think about what you would say to your best friend. You probably won’t be all negative towards him for not achieving the results that he wanted. You’d rather motivate him and be proud of the action he took towards his dreams. Tell yourself what you would say to your best friend.
Good luck!

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4 Steps To Become More Decisive

Posted on September 18, 2014 by Shoba Haridas | 

I hate making decisions. I always envy those who say, “I just knew this was the house for us,” or “to me that was a sign, so I just broke up with him.” They make it seem so easy. They don’t spend sleepless nights poring over the pros and cons list, scrutinizing it one  more time just in case something new pops out. It’s almost like a life force is propelling them towards the right decision.
I want that.
I never get up in the morning knowing exactly which direction to take in life. And my life has never been peppered with signs providing me guidance.
Nope, like most people, I am stuck with the very exhausting task of actually making decisions by myself for myself, all alone, relying just on my inner strength and the slim pickings of my inner wisdom. And let’s face it – that’s no fun. It’s exhausting and it’s terrifying because we have limited knowledge of the situation, we can’t predict the future, we sometimes don’t know what we want or what the right thing is to do AND we are scared of screwing up.
So we put off making a decision. Sometimes that’s okay and it works and sometimes it doesn’t – we wait for things to get clearer but then we start over thinking the situation … and over thinking … and we end up not taking any action. We become stuck and paralyzed.  So how do you break out of this? How do you seize control of the situation and made a call when there is so much of fear and uncertainty?
Not all of us are born decisive just like not all of us are born gym fanatics. I should know, I’m neither. But I know being active is good for my health so I’ve created a system that forces me to be active during my everyday life e.g. walking part-way to work or taking the stairs as opposed to the lift wherever possible. The same way, you can create a system that allows you to be more decisive in life. Here are 4 things you can do:

1. Don’t sweat the small stuff

Making decisions is exhausting and draws from a finite reserve. The more you draw from it, the less you have. So when you have to make a BIG LIFE DECISION, keep everything else simple.
In his interview with Vanity Fair, Barack Obama says ““You’ll see I wear only grey or blue suits,” he said. “I’m trying to pare down decisions. I don’t want to make decisions about what I’m eating or wearing. Because I have too many other decisions to make.”
You need to save your decision-making ability as well. When something big is occupying your thoughts, don’t waste hours pondering on which cushions to get for the flat or which of the 10 strawberry jams you should get. Eliminate choice for the small stuff, get into a routine or simply limit yourself to 5 minutes to make a decision on these items.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.

1. What is the life you want for yourself? 

“It’s not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are.” ― Roy Disney (Walt Disney Company)
Knowing what you want is the single biggest factor which will help you become more decisive. When I work with several stakeholders on a project, the best thing to do when we face an obstacle and a decision needs to be made is to revisit the initial objective.
In the same way, you need to figure out what life you want for yourself. You need to sit down with a pen and paper and write and write and write until the answer starts becoming clearer. That’s the way I do it. At first, its really vague statements that come out (e.g. I want to draw but then keep digging, draw what? Write what, for whom). Set aside a time everyday for 3 days. If it’s still not clear, give yourself a break and spend another 3 days the following week at it.
This question is not limited to general life. You can ask this question in relation to who you want around you, the job you are looking for and the relationship you want to have.
3. Address your fears 
Oftentimes we are indecisive because we fear the various negative outcomes that could or could not materialise if we make a decision. Some fears are irrational, some fears are justified but the fact of the matter is, you get nowhere if you ignore them. Manage your fear. Instead write down your fears, assess them, see if they are justified and then MAKE A PLAN to address them or factor them into your decision.
But remember, you don’t make a decision based on your fears or the probability of what may happen. Decisions are positive. You plan for the fears and probabilities but you make a decision based on the life you want for yourself. See here for helpful diagram.
4. Learn to tune-in to your gut
In Blink, Malcolm Gladwell cites experiments that show “on straight-forward choices, deliberate analysis is the best. When questions of analysis and personal choice gets complicated … our unconscious thought process maybe superior.” Of course, this is an over-simplification. I think good decisions usually take both into account and also varies with individuals but I do believe that sometimes when the question is about profession or the choice of a life partner, you need to pay more attention to what your gut is telling you.
The problem with the gut is that sometimes, it’s hard to read. But taking care of your fears and values like the second and third steps, will help this situation.
Personally, I think what your gut feels always manifests as physical symptoms so I always pay attention to my body when I’m thinking through the various options I have in a situation.

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